Thursday, November 15, 2007


I've said it before, and it's been following me since, but girls, let us stop worshiping at the altar of the Proverbs 31 woman. I read a book, some guy is pointing out how all women should strive to be like her. (When you read my book on how to be a man we can talk.) I turn on the radio, and there she is offering advice. I randomly pick a blog, and someone is telling everyone how she longs to be a P31. I am completely sick of it.

I don't know who wrote it, neither do I care. All that I know is this is about a woman who was adored by her family for all that she did for them. I am that, and have done it with very little striving. I am far from perfect and my husband adores me. I am not at model weight and yet he thinks I'm sexy. I am not up before the family, and he steps in and takes care of what needs to be done. He let's me sleep in on weekends, I haven't sewn anything in years, although I did "make my own bed clothes", and he was kind enough to have it quilted for me for Christmas. I cook, sometimes I clean, I do laundry, but I've given up on striving.

What we are working on here is balance. We've been working on it for more than a decade, and we are almost completely happy, almost all of the time. And I'm sure right before one of us dies, we'll get the perfect balance.

If she were THE role model for women I think Jesus might have mentioned her somewhere, but he didn't hang in her circle. He even told Martha, who was complaining about Mary sitting around, that Mary knew what was more important, (maybe it was the other way around, but you know what I mean). If I'm going to try to be like somebody, I want to be like Jesus.


Susie said...

Great post Annie! You are an awesome mommy, wife and friend.

A Life Inspired said...

Amen. With Christ as my model, I want to have a heart like His.

My pastor taught not too long ago about Proverbs 31; I can't recall the kind of poem it is, but it's where the first and last scriptures point to each other and continue until you get to the focus of the poem, which is the center verse, Prov 31: 23, it's actually pointing to the kind of guy a Christian woman should seek to marry.

I'll never be perfect in this lifetime, but God loves me where I am, but loves me enough to allow me to go through the occasional refiner's fire!